Proposing is a serious business, and if you aren't really great at grand romantic gestures, don't worry. I've got you. ;)
Here are some sure fire ways to make sure your proposal is perfect!
It may be archaic. It may seem silly. However, if your fiancee is really close to her parents, ask their permission in advance. Putting yourself out there is going to seem loving, and it will earn you brownie points with your future in-laws.
Make it an all day event
If you are going to propose in the evening, you want her to realize how much time you put into making the whole day perfect. That means, don't take her to your normal dinner and a movie and pop the question over a tub of popcorn. Woo her. Make her breakfast in bed in the morning, send her cute text messages, and send her flowers. Make her a surprise appointment to get a pedicure at her favorite salon or buy a bath bomb and run her a hot bath to enjoy with her favorite book. Sometimes, you can be romantic without actually being involved in the activity.
Be mindful of her personality
If she's shy, keep it a quiet, private event. If she is really close to her family, make sure they are around. If you share a strong common interest, like a sports team, for example, then do it at a ball field. Don't propose at a winery if she's in AA, or a theme park if she gets motion sickness.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing a special spot, like where you met or where you went on your first date. It shows that you remember and care about all the moments and memories you've shared over the course of your relationship, and she will appreciate the effort.
Consider the Timing
Does your future betrothed have a big exam coming up, or an inspection at work? Does she have a family member who is extremely ill, or is the anniversary of the day she lost someone important to her? Don't pick a day or time that your love is stressed or anxious. She may still say yes, but there will still be a cloud over your special moment.
Set the Mood
You should go out of your way to make your surroundings romantic during the actual proposal. There are a million ways to do this no matter what the situation. If you are have a difficult time knowing what's romantic, or how to set up, shoot me a message! That's part of my job. ;)
Hire a Photographer
If you aren't a super, over the top romantic, and your a guy, you may not give a darn about photos. You may not think about them, and the may not be important to you. I promise they are important to her. Having pictures of that pure joy and surprise and excitement the moment you get proposed to...that is not something you can stage, afterwards.
If you had a fight that morning, or if something bad happened during the day that wasn't planned, don't be afraid to postpone. It doesn't mean it won't happen. It just means you are waiting for the perfect moment.
So, let me paint a picture for you.
You love this girl. I mean REALLY love her. You know she's the one, without a doubt, and you want to pop the question. At this point in our fantasy, you have a ring box in your pocket, and everything has gone as planned. When it's time, you smoothly get down on one knee and ask her to marry you. She says yes! You knew she would, but you were nervous, anyway.
Now, she wants to tell EVERYBODY, and update her profile picture and status on facebook and instagram. You are a smart guy, and you had this one covered. I give you serious props for thinking to clue her mom in so she could have her camera phone out...
Maybe she moved while the shutter went off or maybe it was just too dark for an iPhone to handle. The point is, you aren't the first guy to plan an amazing proposal and overlook the importance of professional, quality photos.
BUT WAIT! Hope is not lost.
...because, my lovestruck Romeo, that is where I come in.
I am a wedding and engagement photographer, and you better believe that includes proposals, too. As a photographer, I can help you by taking amazing photos that she's going to want to share all over the place...she's gonna brag about how amazing and sweet and sexy you are.
As a woman who has heard stories about and been apart of so many proposals/engagements, I will also help you plan and execute a proposal that she will love. You only want to have to ask once, so it should be perfect. If planning something like that isn't your thing, there isn't any shame in asking for help. (I'll even let you take all the credit. My lips are sealed.)
Maybe you are the kind of guy that already has it planned out in your mind, or maybe you have absolutely no idea where to start. Either way, having a photo record of that life changing moment...that's priceless.
She deserves something truly unforgettable. Let's make her moment magical!
SHARE THIS WITH YOUR FUTURE FIANCEE AND GIVE HIM/HER A LITTLE NUDGE IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION! ;)
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